When life throws you a curve ball you can do what I did and get depressed for months or you can do what I am doing now and recreate yourself. I feel it would have been much better for me to skip the first step and go straight to step two and start the recreation process.
At the age of 56 I found myself dreaming of early retirement and making plans for that to take place in the next 1 – 2 years. Then suddenly I am unemployed and on a limited income. Instead of rolling with the punches and planning I sat and moped feeling sorry for myself. It took me 4 months to get to step two and start figuring out what is next. How you might ask? Well it is to recreate myself and change my plans. How you say? Well that is actually the easy part. You need to think outside the box, do some research and make changes to the previous plan.
- Make a list of what you needed for the spoiled plan A
- Take what is still usable in Plan A and move it to Plan B
- Create Plan B
I will give you an idea of how this looks. In my Plan A I was saving to buy some property in Belize, retire there, and be a homesteader. Yup totally off the grid. I had done all the research and started making my steps to get there. I had even purchased an old RV to get me and my dogs there. I was just starting to renovate the RV when I lost my job. We will skip the depression part and my ruined retirement plan sob story and jump into what I did next.
I took the usable stuff from Plan A and put it directly into plan B.
- An old RV that need some repairs and updates
- My willingness to change
Then I go ahead and do some more research. How to live in an RV dirt cheap? I made a list of questions that I needed answers to. I did some research and found answers to the following questions.
- Where will I live?
- How much money do I need to live?
- Where will I get money from?
- What part of the renovations on the RV are necessary right away and what can wait?
- How will I deal with my health concerns and make myself healthier before I leave?
- When will I start/leave?
- What will my life look like in a year from now?
- Do I look for another job? or become self employed?
Now each of these questions took research and a lot of learning. I will admit to feeling the fear of the unknown but if you look past the fear or ignore it like I am doing you will find some solid answers.
Each question has several possible answers and you will know when you find the right one for you.
The trick is to be open minded and willing to recreate yourself sometimes daily. If you stop recreating yourself and looking outside the box then fear and depression will be all you have. If you want something you need to be willing to make hard decisions and changes to your life.
For me it is exhilarating to find things that I didn’t know existed and to make an ever changing Plan B. Instead of saying woes me and doing nothing I am running full speed ahead into a new life with new adventures. I am learning how to take better care of my health and growing stronger each day. Mind, Body and Soul.
Sometimes what you think is a setback or the end of your dreams is actually meant to be a time for growth and change. Sometimes we need that curve ball to get us out of our comfort zone. Life is a journey and we are in it for the ride. If one road is closed we just need to find new roads. We were not meant to sit at the dead end feeling sorry for our losses but to turn around, look up and create something new, different and follow our soul until it sings and dances.
Recreating ourselves is something we should be doing daily and sometimes it takes something really hard to get our attention. Something that will make us look around and re-evaluate our life and how we are living it. Don’t ever be so stuck on your Plan A that you never see what Plan B looks like. If something happens tomorrow to ruin Plan B well I have a whole alphabet of letters left to use.
Recreating myself has taught me to not be so set in one direction in life that I miss all the amazing other directions. I now know the meaning of roll with the punches and happily embrace change and the unknown.